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To: Loneliness or not so lonely

When in the globe of our own trial, it is difficult to not feel imprisoned by loneliness.  It's easy to think we've been the only one that has walked 'this' path, leaving ourselves dry of others help and console. 

What about when very few have walked our path, are we then justified to prove to be the most lonely, desperate, or upset?  Aren't these feelings what drive us away from what we desire and entraps us into a world we can not escape?  We are left bitter, alone, and angry.

But, those same feelings are also an advocate to welcome others into the once forsaken globe.

I asked a dear friend how she does not feel alone with coping with the loss of her son.  I was feeling angry and alone with the limits I have and the lack of understanding others have about chronic pain and she responded by saying, "we all have the same emotions".  Even though someone might not have lost their son, they have felt a deep sense of despair, loss, and anger and in that I know that I am not alone. 

She continued, "Even though many do not know the sadness of chronic pain, most have felt sadness, at the same intensity.  And by understanding that concept, I am able to connect to others and know I am in a world very much supported." 

Our emotions are what connect us to everyone else.  It's easy to want to walk around wanting recognition or proof that we are bearing more than another, yet, we all walk around with the same emotions that all our different experiences bring: sadness, doubt, anger, etc. 

We are not alone.  Experiences are different, but the same emotions follow.  Along with the unpleasant emotions, we are also able to connect with the pleasant ones too.  To break free from our globe, patience, mental vigor and strength are needed.  Through each crack made we can find connection and overcome.  I find that part of overcoming is found in recognizing that I am not alone and even though fighting on a different mountain, the battle is just the same.

And with that, I say thank you,

Emotions

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